I love him, he loves me, but i am NOT happy with him! i can't focus on my studies (next few months are going to decide my career). He fights with me on every little thing (actually he just gets upset a lot and then i have to talk to him etc etc and i am tired of it) We've been friends for almost a year now and dating for last 4 months... He really loves me, but he cries (yes he kinda cries a lot) almost everyday because of me and when I ask him "are you happy with me?" He always says "Yes". The thing is, his parents have screwed him so bad, he consider me as his only "family". He is totally emotionally dependent on me!
problem is, he is not going to break up with me, i'll have to do it. Recently we had a big fight and I told him everything about how I felt he treated me.. by then I had decided that I was going to leave him, but my friend told him and he apologised. But then, I didn't feel anything, I said "ok I forgive you" but I realize now that I don't love him anymore.
But if I break up, he's going to be alone (he still had friends but no one as close as me), he won't do well in his academics, and its a crucial time for him too! And he threatens me that if I leave him he'll kill himself (not directly, after our recent fight when I said I forgive him but didn't act normally, he was really upset and said "you are not lettinf me fix things" and then gave me STRONG hints that he will kill himself soon in a few minutes... i talked to him on phone for 2 hrs! I APOLOGISED ! And then things went to normal, and now he keeps doing that)
what do I do? I am not happy with him!! I care about him
His parents are not close to him, and he has no one to talk to
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I know it must be hard for you but he is manipulating you.. Let's be real here, if he says he is going to kill himself he has got a lot more problems in his life then just the problems between you and him. He needs therapy. And let's be real, he's not stupid, if you told him you don't love him anymore he can so what "force" you to stay with him by saying these things but I doubt it'll satisfy him. There is one thing you need to keep in mind: Whatever happens to him, is not your responsibility. The actions and things he wants to do are his own choices. I understand that you don't want him to kill himself and he might be bluffing but you never know that for sure.
What I'm trying to say is: You are not responsible for the choices he makes, breaking up is never fun but he has mental issues he needs to sort out first before getting in a relationship.. he is not mentally stable. Try talking to a suicide hotline about this, I wish I could help you more but I'm not experienced with cases like this. Just keep in mind: He is not your responsibility and he makes his own choices, he is not stable and needs help from a proffesional.0