My ex boyfriend and I had been together for three years off and on. We grew apart, not together. And it hurts to say that... We recently broke again after he spent an hour basically telling me that, he can't commit to anyone, I should find someone else and he will support me. I was really hurt, the night before we went on a date and we were both saying that the things we do together we can't do with anyone else, and I thought that was us establishing that we were in a relationship. Then a day later he tells me, we haven't established anything. He said that us having sex was a physical thing, that sucked too.. I thought it was supposed to be emotional when you love someone.. (he's also 19 I'm 16). I stayed quiet the whole car ride while he went on and on. And then he told me that if we start dating other people we should just accept it, and support each other. And then I burst into tears.. I felt so hurt and stupid.. Guys I know what he meant but what did he really mean? And do you guys believe that a relationship with so much emotions, struggles, and memories, can turn into being just friends? I feel like I can't do it. But what if he changes his mind and decides he wants to commit, and I'm not there anymore?
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The fact that he is encouraging you to move on and date other guys suggests that he does not plan to revisit being in a committed relationship with you in the near future.
He is aware of the feelings you have for and the pain he will cause you by dating others. Thus, in my opinion, it is unfathomable to believe he is unaware that remaining friends with you in such circumstances is a long shot.1