Broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years after he started messing around behind my back, staying out all night and began taking drugs after starting a new job at a restrauant, meanwhile I was going through a cancer scare. 3 months later he convinced me to give us another go saying about how he loved me and wanted only me etc, we began dating and occasionally I'd stay in the flat we once shared until he told me one night he was tired and could I call the next night instead, when I called the next day I discovered he had spent the night with a girl from work and had been messaging girls off a dating site inviting them round for sex even messaging them when I was in the flat with him. He had other girls saved under different names in his phone and had basically lied about a lot of other stuff so I blocked all contact until he was able to reach me through Facebook and basically blamed me saying it was my fault and I turned him into this lad who doesn't care about girls and that if I treated him right he wouldn't need to have looked elsewhere, even telling me that he has had 44 girls since we spilt, yet after these messages he will ask me if we could start fresh again etc I'm so confused! I'd never go back there but I can't help wonder what's going through his head?
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Humm this is one of those things where I would almost need to hear his take. I doubt you were responsible for much of it. Something about you might have triggered it but he is the one who let himself get to the point he is at. Also that is a pretty big jump in personality so that is pretty curious. I wonder if he did these things before you met even just a little. Cheaters like that normally do not just pop up they have been doing it forever. If he cheated once and it was out of emotion then it would be different that is just sex drive and that doesn't change or get worked on.
Here is the deal he probably does have feelings for you but he is a boat load of a mess. If he tries again tell him if he cares about you being happy he will stay away because he is only hurting you.0
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