I dated a girl for a few years (was engaged), raised her kid for a few years then we broke up. We always kept in touch and somewhat friendly, we loved each other, we just had a really bad breakup because we were basically kids, 22 years old, but our families hate each other because of it. We got really close, really fast bc right after starting dating she got really sick and we found out she had cancer (cured while we were still together). Through that I found out I was going to be the only one there for her bc her father left when she was a baby and her mother moved onto a new marriage and family later and would yell at her to quit faking sick. She's about to lose her house and be broke with a kid bc her boyfriend is going to jail, her mother... who clears a half mil a year... instead of helping her says, "you can go to a woman's shelter til you get on your feet"
She called me crying and I want to just go give her a hug and make sure everything's ok.. I've never been this lost on something in my life.
Basics of it all, I don't want her and her son to live a horrible life and not be there when I could help... I just don't know how to help him, without hurting myself.
Most Helpful Girl
The best thing to do is to help her like let her stay at your place for a while until she's like okay. i mean i know the kid is not yours but its not his fault that he's going through all of that. if that were my kid i would want some help especially from someone i loved. and her bf isn't really going to do much cause that dumb ass is in jail._. i say you help her you obviously still care for her1
Most Helpful Guy
I learned this the hard way.. when my GF broke up with me (yes she broke up with me) we both were shattered, she cried and I just held her for a long time. I continued being there for her because it felt "right". After a while she started dating this other guy and who would've guessed that I wasn't that important after that.. Guess who was the one left broken and shattered all alone in the end?0