I dated a girl for a few years (was engaged), raised her kid for a few years then we broke up. We always kept in touch and somewhat friendly, we loved each other, we just had a really bad breakup because we were basically kids, 22 years old, but our families hate each other because of it. We got really close, really fast bc right after starting dating she got really sick and we found out she had cancer (cured while we were still together). Through that I found out I was going to be the only one there for her bc her father left when she was a baby and her mother moved onto a new marriage and family later and would yell at her to quit faking sick. She's about to lose her house and be broke with a kid bc her boyfriend is going to jail, her mother... who clears a half mil a year... instead of helping her says, "you can go to a woman's shelter til you get on your feet"
She called me crying and I want to just go give her a hug and make sure everything's ok.. I've never been this lost on something in my life.
Basics of it all, I don't want her and her son to live a horrible life and not be there when I could help... I just don't know how to help him, without hurting myself.
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If you can, try and separate your feelings for her and the child, and just help her as a person who genuinely cares about another person. If she needs help, help her but you need to set a limit for what you are comfortable with as well. I'm not sure if she broke up with you or you broke up with her but there may still be feelings there and you need to set the boundaries before hand that you can't save her, she has to work on her problems each one at a time. There are options for single mothers, so make a plan and it will all work out. GL!0