I was seeing a guy who used me for sex. We didn't have sex but it was obvious that was what he was after.
He was a stereotypical player- had lines and was very flirtatious. Came on really strong in the beginning and made me feel amazing. Talked of a relationship and serious dating.
Then he began wanting to put off commitment and he gave me much less attention. Barely one word replies to my texts, if anything. Did nothing for me on my birthday when he claimed to be really serious about me.
I texted him to ask if I could call and he didn't reply so I sent him a message telling him that he was confusing me. He would say how awesome I was but not follow up with his actions. I just said he was confusing and that I wanted him to explain what was going on.
I made sure not to be accusatory.
I called him the next day and he was very defensive and manipulative. Saying obviously fake things. Like while he was angry telling me that I'm a good person..
He accidentally admitted he would see another girl so I said we wouldn't work, because I don't date like him. I like to see one person at a time.
He was really proud and he said he didn't lead me on. I was shocked by that.
I didn't know how to react right away so I texted him later telling him that I was done and wanted to cut contact with him, and that he really did lead me on.
I made sure not to accuse him of just wanting sex-even though his touchiness and obvious frustration when I would say I wasn't ready made that pretty clear.
He was taking pretty mean shots at me and refused to apologize or admit he did anything wrong. He said i was the jerk who mistreated him.
I kept composure. But is it ok to break up via texting? I also defriended him and blocked him on every type of communication- like Facebook and snapchat and all that.
I didn't like the idea of doing the majority of talking over text but he was really manipulative when we talked briefly and I didn't want him to sway me.
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you are a very smart girl. I am proud of you. Many women your age do not know how to properly date and it seems like you have it down. Shoot many women my age and older still dont even know how to properly date.
a lot of women dont understand that the whole point of dating is to find your match. For me, my match is a guy who can love and respect me, believes in marriage, shares same religious beliefs, sexually compatible and so on... We are actually engaged now.
Many women for some reason think that they are suppose to make a guy like you/stay with you so they will do everything they can think of to please the guy. Having that attitude towards dating will always end in heartbreak. When I was younger that used to be me. I was just so excited about having the boyfriend that i failed to realise that there are a lot more factors that go into developing a longterm relationship with someone.
When you realise that a guy is not a match for you, you are supposed to move on and meet someone else. Thats how you weed out the duds and narrow down your search. Knowing exactly what you are looking for is a sure way to find it.0