How do I get over someone when the situation doesn't work out, for us being in a long distant relationship. I already deleted his contact and stopped talking to him. I burned all his letters and deleted pictures of us. I started to slowly talk to other guys, I went out with friends and I've been focusing on myself, but I still find him in my mind, and sometimes still cry over our break up. He was my first love. How can I get over him? When will I be able to let go of my feelings
Most Helpful Guy
Well, you never really forget your first love, but eventually you find someone that makes you feel not the same way they made you feel, not necessarily better or worse, but the way they make you feel replaces the hole that the other person left. In order to get over him, you have to desire to get over him. Pick up a hobby (music and computers are my hobby), that'll keep your mind off him, and the longer time goes by the less you'll think about him. Eventually you reach a point (like I did with my ex-gf), where when you do think about them, you think about the fun times you had together and it doesn't make you sad.
Most Helpful Girl
Three years ago a man from Egypt found me on Fb and we started a whirlwind romance. After getting to know him better, I then flew off to the magical land of Cairo where I stayed for 30 days. Everything went so well that after returning, I flew back over, where we ended up tying the knot. I resided there for awhile, however, I am back in the states. For over two years, we have had many ups and downs, break ups and make ups and much of it my fault. I haven't returned to him because of all the problems that have worsened over in the Middle east and it has caused much strife in our life. I am unsure if God wants me to go back...
We are currently broke up and this time, I think it is best we remain as such. We have tried everything under the sun to keep our bond binding, but nothing seems to work.
Keeping busy, working, socializing with friends and family are a big help to move on and try and forget. And my life on GAG is a big part of my life now. You were right 'Deleting and burning' the past, for this is your way of saying goodbye, closing that chapter of your life with a closure. And absolutely No contact is the best. Every time one of us decides to contact the other out of the blue, it starts up again but always ends up to be a Full circle pattern and with this, more pain, heartaches and beginning the beguine all over again.
What you have done is everything humanly possible to forget him. LDR is one of the hardest kinds to have and without Both partners working endlessly on either end, it will go dead in the water. However, time and licking your war wounds after the war of the Roses is the Healer that is truly needed to seal the kiss forever. But even so, the memories are never really Deleted, they do still Burn in your memory, even after the lovin'...
Good luck, God bless. xx