k, guys this is my issue, sorry its so long, well the last 4/5 years have been downhill, my common law husband is very jealous and controlling even though he doesn't see it, i can't do it anymore i can't handle it, in the years we have been together we have had 4 children i have lost all my friends (because he wouldn't let me talk to them) the only people i talk to are my sisters and he gets pissed off when i do that cause i dont need to talk to them about our personal lives which i don't, well for years whenever we would get in a fight the first thing he would say to me is i fuckin hate you , i don't want you in my life and i haven't for a while, you're stupid, you're a bitch you're useless, the emotional abuse has driven me to fall out of love with him and there is no sexual attraction to him anymore he only wants sex when he's drunk, yeah that makes me feel good!. so i joined a chat site to try and find people to talk to and I became friends with a woman and her husband, well she made me feel really good about myself and one thing lead to another and she asked if i would ever sext we decided to experiment and we sexted one night , well, I decided maybe i will try it, he caught me, I didn't do it because i am attracted to women or want to be a swinger i just did it to try it, but when he thought it was just a woman it was fine, but then i found out from her her husband had joined in but i didn't know that at the time, so i told him and just because a man was involved all hell broke loose, well we then got in a fight about it and so i admitted to him i am not in love with him anymore and i have no sexual attraction to him anymore but he thinks i should stay and make things work? he keeps asking me question i tell him and all he says to me is your lying, how can someone else turn you on if i dont thats not possible,
what would you do and do you think i should stay? TBH i really dont want to, i just want an opinion from another male well females too.
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Leave him. You don't wanna waste your life more dear. go out and do what makes you happy. cause its only one life you gotta do what makes you happy. :) If you need any support or ask anything at all just message me :)0