So I met this guy through mutual friends 2 years ago. We hooked up after 2 dates (I didn't think anything serious would come out of it, so I didn't mind hooking up).. After that, we unexpectedly ended up inseparable for the next 2 years. He was very sweet and I loved how romantic he was. (He was kinda forceful though when we first had sex.. it was weird). Now here's why I didn't see a future before we hooked up: I'm more of a loner, over the club/bar scene. He loves it. He's been known to do cocaine, drink, surround himself w/ people when he's sad. I never liked people like that. But I loved us apart from that. We had a lot of fun hanging out, concerts, being lazy, ect. About a year in, we started having probs due to a power struggle. He always felt that I wore the pants, and resented me for it. He always made remarks about how I could do better than him. To offset this, I did everything for him, cooked cleaned for him if I was at his place, treated him like a prince. Even though I can be hard headed, I tried to let go of my ego a lot to make him feel better I guess. I think I did this I wanted to show him I loved him in case he doubted it. But it came to a point that if I didn't feel like making him food, or getting up to do something for him, he would get mad at me and I would get offended - which would start a fight. If we argued, he would break up with me and wait for me to beg him back. He would always say "I need to work on myself and I'll never make you happy". He was also very insecure about his job and unhappy with it. I hated that he always viewed his probs as the end of the world. If he told me he hates his life, I would try to figure out ways for him to take steps in improvement. He would get mad and say I'm attacking him. The other day we got into a fight because I wouldn't make him food? Lol it escalated. He broke up w/me again. Its been 2 weeks. He invited me to a concert last night but I said no. He's supposedly still set on the breakup, so why?
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I think the fact of you maybe accepting his flaws started to be his crutch on you. Thus when trying to accommodate it and then try helping him it was something he isn't used to when you were being more like a servant I guess. Even when that doesn't seem like who you are. If you never liked people like that, what was the main reason that you stayed in this relationship? I could guess but that wouldn't get us to a reasonable answer to help you out, so out with it? If you had already set the roles of the relationship and he wasn't into it I think you should of left especially if he's doing nose candy, that's money that could be put into the relationship maybe a since dinner for two, or not perhaps just a dinner at home? This guy just sounds sooo unready for a relationship. I think it's best to simply cut this guy out because the relationship has already become one sided and not the give and take flow it;s supposed to be.0
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