Most Helpful Guy
No. No hope he will come back. He actually moved on from you a long time ago. Before you two even broke up.
His 'don't make this harder than it already is' does not refer to him being emotionally twisted up inside about it. It means that he knows YOU are not over the relationship yet, and you are trying to 'fix' a problem that is not fixable. And doing that is just going to make you r life harder and harder.
This was not about him feeling shitty about his postion in life. This is about the NRE wearing off, plain and simple. The new relationship energy at the start of a relationship feels awesome, feels like live, makes the future seem rosy, makes it seem like you want to be with the person forever and ever... it's all chemically induced by the brain. "Real" love takes years to build. NRE exists to give 'strangers' time together to actually build that love. But sometimes (most times) it doesn't. And the two partners have that NRE end at different times. Sometimes it only lasts a few months. Sometimes it can last a couple of years.
His ended early. Yours didn't. As soon as it went from 'wife material' to 'always had his friend over'... that's when that brain high wore off. When it wore off, there wasn't enough 'real' emotional connection left underneath, and he was just letting the relationship continue because there wasn't really any reason to end it per so. He wasn't in love with you, but whatever, if you didn't get in the way it's not like you were terrible. Once that cut was made though, he was 100% a-ok with it, because it's what he wanted anyways. His actions since completely confirm that. He was just trying to spare your feelings a bit. That's all.
He is done with this relationship, 100%.0
Most Helpful Girl
I'm not a guy, but it looks like you answered your own question. Men don't feel like men if they can't take care of a woman financially. It's possible he thinks you've become too good for him. When he told you "don't make this harder than it has to be" means he's heartbroken because he's decided to give you up so you can move forward. He may feel he's going to hold you back from a better life. He feels unworthy of you. Men don't understand that when we love them, we are willing to face anything to be by their side (except cheating, lies, and abuse)0