How would you go about finding closure with an ex that is close to you?
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I agree with @kittykatg in that there really is no such thing as receiving 'closure'.
My ex cheated on me before breaking up with me, of course leaving me distraught. I was a mess for about half a year, thinking that I'd be able to fully move on if he'd just get in touch with me and give me some closure.
Sure enough, a few months later, he did send me a message apologizing, saying he feels terrible for what he did and that he wished it didn't happen. I was glad to receive it, thinking I'd finally be able to put that incident in the past. Surprisingly, I felt no better or any more over it afterwards. I gave it some time to 'sink in', but still no difference. I gave it a lot of thought, and asked myself what I would want him to say that would truly make me feel better.
I had thought him owning up to his mistake and acknowledging that he messed up would suffice. He did just that, but regardless he did what he did and I was just as hurt. Only if you could turn back time or erase the past would 'closure' be attainable with an ex, regardless of how close you two were.1