My girlfriend kicked me to the curb at least to my knowledge because I was nice. Like doing nice gestures, such as open my car door for her, kiss her hand when I am holding it on occasion, etc. We would text everyday, on occasion I would send her pics of things she likes and stuff. She also told me that she had bad luck with her ex ( being months since they broke up) He never did any of the things I did from what she told me. Never was even given gifts or flowers except maybe once. I gave her only one bouquet of roses in the short time I have been with her. She claims it is not what she wants when she told me when we first started dating and I asked her what she was looking for in a guy. She said she wanted a romantic guy that would be her best friend. Everything was going great met her friends and she met mine, both sets of friends approved of each other. But she pulled the trigger a few days before I was supposed to meet her mom.
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There are a couple of reasons she did this:
When I did this it was because I wasn't really over my ex. I know you don't mention a lot about that, but it could be a reason. Sometimes the nice guys do finish last. The thing was, you showed her that there are guys who cared and who acted decent and loving and this probably helped her even if it has been months since they broke up she could still have feelings for the guy.
There's also that whole "spark" thing. Girls insist on a "spark" needing to be there and sometimes with a guy that is perfect (funny, smart, cute, caring ect...) if the so called spark is missing then we spend more time thinking about the lack of a spark than we do about the actual guy and then it just gets worse.
You guys didn't fight so I won't even mention that.
If you want her back the easiest way is to be unavailable- fake indifference (its worth it!). Its easiest if she agreed to stay friends in which case you can ask her after a week or two if she would like to go to the movies or coffee"as friends". Act like a friend on these occasions, don't linger on the hug or try to hold her hand. Do not tell her you miss her or talk about the break up. In fact talk about anything except the relationship and act completely casual as if this was a normal meal with a friend you had no feelings for. Back off for a couple of days and do it again. This time though tell her she looks pretty offhandedly and continue as if nothing happened- don't give time for it to get awkward just launch into another story. If she texts you respond, but always be the one to say goodbye first. The trick here is to remain unavailable.0