I met a girl earlier in the summer and we hit it off right away and everything was going great. She also has a young child and started school back in September. This is where the stress for her has been building up. Her talking about anxiety and what not, but I was there to coach her through it all, help her with homework and it seemed to go well.
During the course of the 4-5 months we've been together, she's had some slight behavior where she showed happiness to me and close family but would hide it others and friends (especially on Facebook where she'd take down a pic of us that everyone loved). Baby daddy issues maybe? She said he was a jealous person and scared of him. She is in contact with his family still and hides the fact that she is with me. She also talks about him from time to time and even her previous ex before me. She's also still close friends with his family.
We've had some small nonsense bickering and I've called her out on some of her behavior to talk about it but she'd get annoyed about it, but we'd work it out, well I thought we did.
Now, a few days ago, I sent her a good morning text (like I always did) saying how I was lucky to have her (and she's said it before and all that sweet stuff) but then 6 hours later, she finally followed up by saying she felt lost, felt like she couldn't be or feel in love like she should, especially with a great guy (her words) and also said she was emotionally drained. She wanted time to think it over and I was upset and tried to reason but if she's emotionally drained is it worth it to wait or move on? It's a weird situation. I told her to take the time she needed but I wasn't going to wait around forever and her last response was "Ok :(" and that was the end of it. Haven't heard from her since. This sucks. I've done a lot to help that girl and be there for her.
What should I do in this situation? Is it doomed or can she recover?
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Dude, I'm in the same situation. Single mom, sweet, really great girl. Super sweet. Hung out with her three times and it looked as if it were going to progress into a relationship, and then, without warning, she won't text back, call, anything. No explanation. Lost her job and started hanging out with the wrong crowd, whom I strongly suspect has something to do with the no contact bullshit. All you can do is what I did. Put the ball in her court. Let her contact you.1