I was with this girl for three years, i always made her a priority yet whenever it came to me, i was always second rate. I would constantly try to make her happy without overdoing it. Everything was good up until my parents separated, i was juggling a relationship, hobbies, friends, and a depressed father who had no interest in helping himself. After that i became very depressed, she got very distant from me, never bringing up a conversation. Always expecting me to come through for her or the relationship.. Never trusting me with anyone else especially when they were trying to help me. The end result was a break, then ultimately a break-up. I never got an answer to what i did wrong, i cut off all communication 5 months ago in an attempt to forget. Still feeling unsure, unhappy and broken. Anyone else have experience with this? Thought? Ideas? Experience? Anything would be great thanks.
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i agree with the initial anonymous post. not that you shouldn't be selfless in a relationship but if you aren't getting the same back you are putting yourself into a bad position
no you didn't necessarily do anything wrong, the problem it seems to me is that you accepted a role as essentially the care giver and didn't get much back. so when you stopped being able to be a care giver she was suddenly unable to cope with the relationship... It is sort of like welfare and government handouts. many become reliant on welfare to get through their every aspect of life. if those handouts were suddenly reduced or taken away the person would be unable to survive.1