My ex bf broke up with me due to trust issues him and I still see each other and he's recently started opening up about how i hurt him in the past and before he wld just shut down get angry and not want to talk about it. Yesterday he gave me a big hug as if he missed me and I'm slowly winning him back. I even asked him if he wld spend the holidays with me and before he wld say dnt even ask if we rnt together but this time he said will see... than i asked last time if he wld come over to my house and he said ok. he's told me before not to force it so I've backed off a bit and it seems to be working because he seems to put more effort as far as calling me and showing me a little bit of his emotions. However, if you felt you truly cared about a girl but she hurt you and lost her trust but still around.. how wld a person react if they still truly really cared? Like if he didn't really care would he get jealous? What? What are the examples to show me he still is thinking about us?
Please help me I really need help to win my ex back?
What Guys Said 1
If he gets jealous over you talking to other guys or if he gets jealous when other guys compliment you, he's very immature.0
What Girls Said 2
message me if you need to really talk.
but he is your ex and even if you get back together, trust is like a mirror, u ll see the damn crack ones it is broken. so it will never be the same again ex and as you think or dream how it was before and how it can be if you get back together.
i was in the same situation before, wanting to get back together with my ex and we didn't even have trust issues like u had. it just does not happens how you wish and by time passes, you think how foolish u were to get back together. i have lots of things to write about that but my suggestion to you is to put no contact.
i mean no Facebook checking, no Twitter following, no news from him through friends and family, no nothing.. try to stay alone to deal with yourself and see if u can live better/worse without him. first two weeks maybe three will be hard. you will think you cannot live without him but just be patient. you ll see and be glad that he is your ex now 98% guarantee you. 2% as you really cannot live with him..
anyways for your SPECIFIC CASE:
even if you win him back, try to look at your relationship subjectively. he is control freak apparently and this is dysfunctional that he is jealous of everyone. you need some bad/good guy friends in your life so he can strive for being best for you when he sees them, and you need to appreciate him when u see the bad. kind of philosophical: good doesn't exist without bad. so this relationship really cannot work as long as you put so many effort to push it forward. but relationships are not present in our lives to makes us be in a challenging and unhappy situation all the time. we have enough troubles in our lives and they are in our lives to make us happy. why are you putting so much effort into something that kinda makes you unhappy through his jealousy?
so i hope u got what i try to say with this wall of writing. if u try to talk, just inbox me.
good luck with everything0
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