I did something wrong (no cheating just kissed another girl) and she fond out about that now she wants to break up with me and doesn't let me to explain and doesn't want to fix this problem.
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most people consider cheating to be fooling your partner into thinking that you are emotionally and sexually commited to only her/him. Sexually does not nessesarily mean intercourse. It can mean you are doing things that may lead to sex, such as kissing, fondling/fingering, oral sex and even flirting because wanting to do thoes things with others means you really are not commited to one person.
If you make a commitment to stick with one person emotionally and sexually and then you end up not sticking with one person, then that means you broke your commitment.
If you do not feel like you are commited to only one person, then you really shouldn't lie to yourself and tell yourself that you are because you will cause stress for yourself and you will also end up hurting your partner when she finds out. Thats kind of like a gay person trying to tell themselves they are not gay when they really are. Why beat yourself up and cause yourself stress trying to hide your gayness when you can just come out and be free and do all the gay stuff you want? Why stress yourself out trying to control your urges for other women and keeping it a secret from your partner when you can just come out and admit that you want multiple women and then can freely go get them as you want and be happy? (a video recently went up on YouTube with some guy in church trying to tell everyone "im not gay no more" when clearly he is struggling, you should look it up)
I really belive that not everyone is cut out for monogamy. Its a genetic thing. Some people are just meant to be with multiple people otherwise people wouldn't have the urges to do it. I personally prefer monogamy and am capable of loving and having sex with only one person.
I think its a good thing that she broke up with you. Now you can freely do whatever it is you want to do and you dont have to worry about what one person thinks of your urges. Also she can now go look for a guy who like her can be monogamous. its a win win1