We broke up a couple weeks ago it's kinda my fault we still hang out and talk everyday and he even comes over to hang out with me and my family we still have sex our realtionship was amazing but I hurt him because i have a lot of guy friends even tho there just friends he dosent like that so that hurts him a lot and says I compared them to him which I never meant to I know he still loves me a lot we dated for 6 month when he just got out of a 3 year relationship and now there talking agian and she a libra but I know he dosent really want to be with he just got out of a 3 year relationship and now there talking agian and she a libra but I know he dosent really want to be with he just knows she always going to be there because they were each others first? Help? He says she was never even in the picture until I pushed by when we would argue saying to go be with her and the childish games I would play I really want to fixed things I've been playing it cool i know I messed up and now he's confused
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Sex doesn't fix things, open and honest communications helps fix things.
It sounds to me that your ex feels as though you valued your male friends more than him and it also seems that his head is at a cross roads between you and his ex. Now it wouldn't surprise me if this dude never stopped caring or having feelings with his ex and has conveniently used your guy friends as an escape mechanism. You mentioned that him and ex were each other's firsts and that means that he has a stronger bond with her than you and if given a choice he's more than likely going to choose her over you.
It sounds to me as though your second best and I am sure should things not work out for him and his ex that he will back with his tail between his legs asking you for a second chance. It's up to you whether or not you want to be second best. If you don't mind wait in the wings for him, but I certainly wouldn't in your position and next time you are with a man, don't make him feel inferior to your male friends that's just lame.2