My wife will tell me that I'm strong and persistent when she's in a good mood, but will say the exact opposite as soon as she's hurt or has to admit responsibility for her shortcomings.
The problem I've seen in myself is that I lack respect for myself. I told her 2 months ago, after taking 2 years of hell that I was leaving. I'm reluctantly staying now (since last week) because there's been so much pressure on me from her, her parents, and a counselor she picked (the one I picked made her "feel uncomfortable") about breaking up our family and kids, and that she really loves me (yes, that's why she cheated on me for so long), that I've caved in temporarily. While staying, she's said she only wants positive feelings and talks, and that it's too hard for her if I'm upset about things most of the time : The result? I'm faking that I'm happy and am frustrated out of my mind as soon as I'm away from her.
I'm falling into the same old trap aren't I?
I'm not having enough respect for myself, what I want from my life or my true feelings to say "No, this isn't right for me, regardless of the cost".
And I've learned and can admit that a man who won't stand up for himself and respect himself is the man most likely to get cheated on, because what woman loves a man who won't stand up for himself, or her?
I don't think she'll be able to handle it if I stand up and respect myself, so my prediction is that doing so will be the end of the relationship / family. That is a price which I was willing to pay.
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just tell her and the counselor how u feel ur blaming urself for ur wife cheating on u is she trying to blame u for her cheating on u my ex did that to me my comback was im sorry did i push u n make u fall inside that girl? no i didn't and i made him take responsibility for his own actions so respect urself if thats the end of the relationship then is it ur loss or hers? its really up to u because once a cheater always a cheater she will do it again and if u let her think she can push u around and that ur not gunna leave if she cheats on u why wouldn't she do it again? no one should ever put up with that and really from the sounds of it she's emotionally abusing u and things like this make me so angry only because of what i went through with my ex i never want some one to go through what i went through coz it sucks so im sorry u deserve better then that