We argued about how I FEEL he never has time for me. He said "Its your fault. If you want to hangout with me then say something" Im like your my bf how could you not want to be with me as much as I want to be with you. He said "Not everything is about you or how it makes you feel" I felt I was voicing how I felt and nothing got done. I told him Im not happy (cause we kept fighting) he said "I dont know what to say to comfort you" I just cried. I wanted a hug.
Things got worse as the days went on. I said "We should break up, I dont trust you" He said " I didn't know you didn't trust me enough to hangout with my friends"The next day we talk. I say "I love you and no I didn't break up with you" He said "But you wanted to" 3 days later we broke up.
He wanted to still be friends. I went along. 2 weeks later. I said, "I love you and we should work it out" He said, "I don’t think it’s a good idea". I left it at that. He texted me 5 days later "Hey beautiful"
After that I told him we should no longer be friends. He disagrees at first saying "Your sweeping me under the rug?" But it’s not about him. How can we move on if were still talking to each other? He finally agreed.
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It seems like you reacted appropriately. I totally understand why you'd break up with him, cause it sounds like he was looking to live by much different standards than you were, and had much lower expectations for commitment in the relationship than you.
Breakups are inevitably messy sometimes, but you seem to have handled it better than many might have, despite how messy its been. I think you're entirely right that you can't remain friends now, for the reasons you mentioned, and because even if you weren't concerned about having a hard time moving on and getting other men to be comfortable investing their time in you, your ex seems to be acting very inappropriately for someone who is agreeing to just be friends. Forgiving him in your heart is ok, but forgiving him does not mean you can necessarily go back to being friends like nothing happened, and he doesn't even sound like he's treating you as an ordinary friend should either, unless he sends penis pics to all of his male and female friends (I imagine he wouldn't have many friends.)
So, yes. I'd say you did the right thing and it seems like you've been handling it as well as possible. If you can find a way to get your stuff back then that would be good, but keep being cautious, cause this guy definitely still has an agenda, and you're right for trying to keep distance from him.