I texted her on Thanksgiving, which was also her birthday and we had a nice exchange of pleasantries. Then, when I tried to leave the conversation she texted: "I don't want to make you feel awkward, but I miss you."
I couldn't tell her I missed her as well, even though the truth is I miss her terribly! It would have caused both of us to backslide from moving on from one-another. I also didn't want to reply and imply I didn't miss her, because that would have been a lie, and may have made her feel worse about herself. I ended up giving no response, and I feel terrible about it!
I just want to cause the least pain possible so she can move on with her life and be happy. How much damage did I cause by not replying? Is there anything I can do to make it better, or will contacting her again only make things worse?
Now she's asking me to explain why I broke up with her for the 95th time, even though she's repeated it back to me numerous times and explained that she understands.
Most Helpful Girl
It probably hurt. It's ok because breaking up hurts. No right or wrong but you have to give her space, contacting her is keeping her hope alive and let's admit it you were checking in on her a bit (just a bit)
It things are truly done give her and youself space to heal and grow, later you can start to continue a friendship. Much later. Hugs good luck0
Most Helpful Guy
Seems like you guys broke up & are still able to act normally toward each other.
You know it's kind of an awkward situation to be in. I've been in similar ones.
Maybe you could literally reword what you just told us & tell her the same thing. Just tell her what you told us & how you weren't sure how to respond tho you did miss her.
If you are worried you might complicate things you could just not say anything but I would personally just explain to her what happened & why you did what you did.0
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