He tried to text me a few times "like a pal" shortly after, but I ignored him.
A month later he called and said we should still be friends. I basically told him to go fuck himself and he cried/pleaded. I hung up on him.
WTF is going on? This was HIS choice? Why would I be friends with someone who dumped me over a rough patch. We're not "friends". Friends are loyal
Ps- I don't think he wants to get back together. I'm assuming he would've said so.
Most Helpful Guy
I am going to break up with my s. o of over 10 years. She also pleaded for me to not do so and even offered that I can sleep with hookers to get any sex kinks I have (which I think is a slam to her esteem and I won't do it... for her) but I still want to keep in contact with her as a friend. We have experienced a lot together. Is that a bad thing?
Most Helpful Girl
It's naive for people to believe they can dump someone and then smoothly make the transition to being friends. No matter how good people get along, being dumped will always be painful and you will always need time. It also mostly seems lame to me from the dumper: they don't want to be with that person anymore but want to keep them in their life.
Now, I am not saying that being friends with an ex is never ever possible. But there has to be a significant amount of no contact after the break up. So that the dumpee can heal and move on. It's ridiculous to think that anyone will be able to be your partner one day and then satisfied with being your friend the next day.