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Hmmm I'm very sorry to hear that :( 9 years is a long time to spend together. So you know she's unhappy because of lack of affection. I don't want to sound cynical here but you might need to grovel. Reason being is for a long time she probably felt as if you didn't care and now she is cold towards you. Show her you care and then when the time comes to go for a few days, hopefully she'll realize during that time that she does still love you and is just mad at you. I sincerely hope you two work it out.