I think I'm done with relationships for a long time. I keep having bad experiences and it seems that every guy that shows interest in me loses it after a while or they play me and I'm just tired of it. So I think I'm done for a long time. Anyone else feel like this?
Does anyone else keep having bad experiences with relationships?
What Guys Said 9
There's someone out there for you, trust me I'm one of those guys where I treat you like a queen and show unconditional love. My ex gave that up to be with an ex who dumped her. It's all trial and error, just don't dump everything out in the beginning of the relationship. It's worh it to wate and see how both of you guys get emotions for eachother. There's always somone out there for you. I'm 21 and I still haven't met the right one, but I keep on looking one day I will find her.1
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I do. But I am the problem.2
Whoa! That's a pretty young age to be saying you're done with relationships for a long time!
I had two failed relationships in my early 20s, and I have remained single since then (I'm 28 now). I suppose relationships aren't really my thing, and I'm much better off single. Occasionally i do long for a relationship, but I don't think I'll ever make the mistake of getting into one again. The emotional wounds left from my previous relationships probably won't ever heal.0
I don't know about being done for a long time, but I just got dumped after a 4 year relationship, we were moving in and I was thinking of proposing soon after, then she decides she doesn't love me and dumps me :(0
Me thinks it's time to find yourself and discover who you want to become.1
Yeah I do. Nobody seems to know what they want these days or very few at that.2
You're under 18, but act like you have the cream of the crop to choose from at your age lol. You do realize that the guys in your age range are just as green and naive as you, right?
And even after the silly stages of high school, do you want to know who I see as being the least happiest out in the world? It's mostly the people that treat looking for a relationship the same as how they look for a job. It becomes a life goal for them, something they absolutely NEED to find, something they force into being, something they desperately seek out because they can't just be happy with themselves. Hell, they don't even know what it's like to just sit and be content with themselves.
There's always this search for someone or something to make THEM feel good, rather than just learning how to do that for themselves. There's this huge misunderstanding (or total ignorance) that a person can even be in control of that for themselves, so they never know that they should be seeking that out instead. They follow all these steps- meet a person, gauge them 5 minutes after meeting them to see if they'd make a good partner, immediately start trying to guide things in that direction if the person passes the 'test', make them a boyfriend/girlfriend, feel happy that they've checked that off their list of "how to be normal", the relationship ends because the relationship was an achievement and not a supplement to their current lifestyle... rinse and repeat.
So I'll end this rant by saying you can either keep doing the same things over and over (which will give you the same results over and over), or you can understand that when you stop, let go of the wheel, stop treating relationships like validation or a desperate need, chill out and just let life happen while you pursue the things you've always wanted to do... over time, you'll learn that letting go of this sort of control will actually give you a great sense of control over your life and the things in it.2
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What Girls Said 6
Yes unfortunately. I've been used, abused, assaulted and cheated on. I know if my current relationship goes, which it nearly has, I'll stay single for some time. Even the most perfect of relationships where you feel like they're the one, gets ruined by their behaviour. It's a shame. :( I just want to find happiness.1
My ex-friend has horrible luck with guys. I feel sorry for her. That's probably the best way I can put it. Horrible, horrible luck.1
I'm taking a break from relationships, I've only been in one that lasted about 5 years. It was nothing serious just something special. I got played and my feelings were played as well and I got led on. I don't know when I'll be dating again probably in the future but not right now because of school and my education. I just stand falling head over heels for someone who doesnt' feel the same way about me. Plus I don't ask for a lot either, I just ask that he treats me right and is good to me that's all. But either way I get used or get pushed around in a relationship. So yeah I'm done for now. I'm tired of running a mile for someone who won't even run a mile for me. I just want something serious that's all nothing more nothing less.0
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