my boyfriend broke up with me everything in our relationship was fine while I was still stationed overseas but when things started to become challenging in our relationship he ended things. I had gotten new orders back to the united states. even after I got back for the first few days things still seemed fine before he just got to the point where he said he can't do this. 11 days after we broke up he told me..."you're a great person but I don't want to be with you romantically, I care for you as a person, a friend but not a lover." yes I was crushed when I heard this because it made me wonder why in the world did he get into a relationship with me in the first place. days before he said these things he told me that he wanted to be by himself for a year or two to fix things in his life and that he keeps jumping from one relationship to the next and he never gave him time to himself. but for him to say this about me it made me wonder what was wrong with me. he told me that there was nothing wrong with me. then I asked him was everything based on a lie while we were together... he then responds and says "it could have lasted between us, it was just bad timing." what is this bad timing stuff have to do with anything and if he doesn't even like me romantically then how is everything bad timing? also his ex had just dumped him in June 2014 due to long distance. I was in a long distance relationship with him once I came back to the united states. it's like everything he had said he flipped the script once I got back over here to the states. all of the long term talk started to disappear. and after we broke up he says that we live apart and that sine i'm in the states he doesn't want to be with me anymore but this was days before he told me that he didn't want to be with me romantically. I remember when we broke up it had only been a day after the break up and he told me you need to move on. it's like he was being a total a**hole to me.
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There are times some guys go into their mental den to get things sorted. It's hard or even impossible for a woman to help a man in this situation.
Of course each guy and girl is a different person too, so I can't be 100% sure what's going on in his head. Here are my guesses :-
1. He doesn't feel it's perfect with you and is getting "cold feet" or commitment issues. This could the case if he is physically attracted to you, but if you spoke about something like your guys future?
2. He is finding himself attracted to another girls/had an affair and is feeling guilty because he doesn't feel too romantic for you but feels culpable for hurting you because he still cares of your emotions.
3. He is going through a difficult phase (financial, emotional etc.) and needs to be by himself to reflect, think about himself and doesn't feel support by leaning on you. This could be true if your relationship is new or was based mostly on attractions and "good time" hang outs.
Think about the events that have occurred and try to single out which it may be.0
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