We're supposed to be boyfriend and girlfriend. He never tells me how he feels about me. The only time he ever did was when I was ready to leave him the last time. It's as if he's emotionally stunted. He's not super affectionate. Nothing. It almost feels like a good friend. Every other guy I've been with wanted me to be his and made it abundantly clear. This guy seems indifferent but when I bring it up he gets insulted. Is it wrong to want a man who is affectionate and open about his feelings? Especially at 6 months?
- Yes it's wrong to expect that from him.Vote A
- No it's not wrong. I'm surprised he didn't do it sooner.Vote B
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I assume he is young like you. By the time he is 27 though, he should have his act together for intimacy.
That said, either 1) he's immature and doesn't know how to handle intimacy OR 2) he's gotten burned badly once and may be a little reticent to be more verbally committal even though, inside, he may be committed AND/OR 3) he's just not that into you, but doesn't feel any desire to change anything and doesn't want it change; he's in a place of comfort and any deviation from that can be scary.
Facing fears and uncomfortable situations is part of life though and this guy should step up. Or, to put it in men's terms, he should "Man up" or "Strap on a pair".
Maybe this will help: Get him tipsy with alcohol and then question him. With alcohol, inhibitions are lowered and he'll open up and then you can gently be more questioning of him. Likely, you will find out what you want to know but, be prepared, you may not like what you find out. Still, at least you'd then know instead of worrying like you are now.1