my boyfriend has been under a lot of stress with school and work. Recently he did not do so well and decided that we needed to take a break. He said he still loves me, but needs time. he still wants to hang out and talk, but i just do not know what that means. I really want him back and he says to other people that we are in a rough spot right now is there hope
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Guys base A LOT of their self worth on how well they 'succeed' in the eyes of the social standards. If he is getting bad grades, or having trouble at work, it erodes his self esteem, and he feels like he might be failing, and if he really likes/loves you, he doesn't want you to see that side of him, especially when he doesn't know what to do to fix it.
It's like when girls/women see the 'super models' that are so 'super perfect', or they think that they are, and that is what we want. How do you feel when you gained a few pounds over the holidays, or your pants are a little tight, or so on, and so on? That's how he feels! He feels the same as you do, when you think you are 'fat' or 'bloated' or 'unlovable'.
Guys express it by pushing away, and being alone, trying to find a solution, to 'FIX' it. That's what we do. Forcing him to talk, or try to force some kind of intimacy is going to make it worse!! He needs to feel like a 'MAN' and 'FIX IT' before he can feel comfortable with you.
Unfortunately, all you can do is trust that he can figure it out, and tell him that you care, and know he needs some space, and you will be there, for him, if he needs you, and you are looking forward to when he can feel better.
If he really cares for you, he will figure out his SHT, and get it right, so he can be a 'MAN' and be what he thinks you need from him: the solid, strong guy.
We don't think like you, and maybe it is hard to understand, but this is pretty 'universal' for most 'Western-type' guys.0