How to deal with a messy breakup?

I tried to break up gently but thing went wrong and me and my girlfriend had a fight and messy breakup.
I feel guilty and want to reduce it, also want to find a way to reduce her hurts too.

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  • There's nothing that can be done now. Break-ups are tough especially if you are the one being dumped and especially if you weren't blatantly undesirable i. e. abusive or crazy. Breaking up is basically telling someone that you are giving up on them and the bond you built. Depending on the type of ex you're talking about, that can really hurt. If they were a good ex and typically treated you well, it's going to feel like a smack in the face. There's nothing you can do to lessen that blow. Best thing to do now is just give her space so she can heal and move on without the memory of you giving up on her. Don't try to contact her to relieve your guilt; it's selfish.

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  • I know you feel bad but there really isn't anything you can do to make her feel better. Reaching out to her might give her the wrong impression, or force her anger on you in a more direct way. Give her a little time to wallow, and feel bitter - I know it doesn't sound like it, but it's probably the best thing for her, and you.

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  • It's better to give space to heal

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  • It's too late for that and from my own observations most breaks ups are messy because breaking up isn't easy and hurts worse than a hornet's sting.

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