Me: 32 with a 3yo son
Him: 36 with a 7yo son
We dated 11 great months. Our kids love each other, our families love each other, we love each other's kid. We both have said it feels like family when we're together. We've had lots of obstacles: he had surgery, my divorce was finalized, he lost a job and got a job, I closed by business, and MORE. But we sailed through all of those things without even a hiccup.
I left an abusive marriage 3 years ago. I'm past the relationship, obviously, but there are lingering effects. Over Christmas, things got really serious very quickly and I started to feel like we were already engaged or married. I pulled back out of fear and actually ended the relationship on Jan 1.
As soon as I did, I realized that my feelings were, indeed, very deep and that all my fear stemmed from being scared of marrying the wrong person... and that he's SO DEFINITELY the right person. My best friend. And I know without a doubt that he is the man I want to be with. I tried to fix it the next day, but he thought it best for us to take some time apart over the weekend to think - and that he especially needed to think. It's been a week since then. He's been texting me every day but I've been trying to give him the space he says he wants. I didn't text him at all for the last 24 hours and he texted with "I really missed not hearing from you at all today." But I'm so, so, so sad and confused. I don't know how long to wait for him to "think" and I don't want to pressure him by asking or trying to rush him - he's hurting and he's entitled to all the time he needs. And if the roles were reversed, I would sure be doubting him, too.
I guess I just want to know how long to wait... if I should wait. Or do I just consider it over to save myself from obsessing over it. It's harder every day.
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You're too old to play this game. Just ask outright.2