I want to avoid the breakup altogether. I love him a looot, and I don't see how a breakup could improve either of our situations. I'm going to make sure he knows I'm not high maintenance; all I really want is a text every once and a while and for him to spend a minute or two with me at school every few days. We can spend lunch together once every one or two weeks to replace the time we'd normally spend on dates.
I really, really don't want to lose him due to the pressures of a semester. He's already told me he wants to focus on school, sans the breakup information, and I made sure he knows I supported him. Is there anything else I can do? Is there anything else I should say? I figure a text and a couple minutes of talking a week and 30 minutes every 2 weeks isn't that much to ask for, but should I reduce what I want? I just want to be happy, and he makes me happy, and so I want to make him happy. What can I do to make this work?
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Yes, relationships are time consuming, but that doesn't mean it's impossible to him to succeed at both school and being a good boyfriend. I'm sorry to say, but there are most likely other reasons that he would want to break up with you aside from a large amount of school work. Unless he thinks that it would be REALLY REALLY unfair to you, if he really really wanted to be in a relationship with you, he should be able to manage his time in a way that works for school and you. Sacrifices must be made sometimes, but it's not impossible. School is also very important to me, and there were many times in my relationship where I would have to plan out my studying so that I could make time for my boyfriend on the weekend.
The best thing you can do is just explain to him what you would like. If you are both willing to, your relationship should be able to adjust to different schedules and other factors. I don't think that you should put a number on how many texts or minutes you talk, nor should you have to be satisfied with such little involvement from him if you want more. What I mean by this is, don't stay in a relationship that has such little emotional and physical fulfillment that it's not a relationship at all.
Also, how long have you been dating? I think what you stated above is the best thing to do in your situation. Whatever it comes down to, a relationship requires the involvement of both parties. Both have to give an about equal effort and commitment or it can't work. If he can't give that to you, then it may be best for both of you to move on.