My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship ship, I'm going to NYU next year (he lives in NY) and we plan to move in with each other at that time.
He's super sweet, we were friends for 3 or 4 months before we started dating, and when we started dating it felt like we were made for each other, we like all the same foods, music, movies, and everything else; we have very similar life plans.
But he still lives with his ex; I trust him a lot, I know I do, but I still have a horrible feeling in my gut like I'm being too trusting. His ex and I have talked in the past, she told me we were perfect for each other and a lot of other sweet things, but this has gone from a very small problem in the back of my head, to something that is gnawing away at me; I want to be with him, and have this work because I do believe this is perfect, and we were meant to be together.
But I think I need some help trusting him and his decisions a bit more, any advice on how to do that?
I understand how girls are, but I don't feel like they're being shady; I just feel like this is out of my comfort zone and I just need something to take my mind off of it.
Most Helpful Guy
big nope to all this.
It sounds sooo shady.
I'd be very careful o_O0
Most Helpful Girl
Oh hell no... i stay away from these situations because they always end up getting back together, i went on some dates with a guy and i was at his and well... turned out he wanted to just mess around, but he was still living with his wife who he had not yet divoced but has broke up with, i found the who situation really weird too... i mean at first i didn't know he was because he said he was single but the first time i was hanging at his house he mentioned he broke up with his wife then he said he lives with another girl but she is korean and that they were just room mates.
The 2nd i went over she came back early and then when i was leaving guess what? she didn't sound korean at all and she had an English accent lol and for some reason she was asking him where he was going (busted lol), at that point he told several lies so the sitatuon just got more weirder and weirder and i was starting to think maybe his wife just let him sleep with other girls where she was away at work and loves listening to what we may be doing when she came back early lol. It was so weird and i just didn't trust the situation whatsoever. Don't trust it ether because for all you know he could be lying just to get some booty because she's letting him have sexual relationships with other girls :\, i agree with everyone TOO SHADY! LOL.0