So I've been dating this girl for almost 5 years now, and I just don't want to be with her anymore. We started dating in high school and she's great, the best person I know, shed do anything for anyone. And I love her, I'm just not in love with her anymore. I've just been trying so hard to rekindle things but for some reason I just lost feelings for her.
The most complicated part is that my brother passed away recently he was in his early 20's as am i, and she's been so great taking care of me and all of that, and she loves me so much and I know ending it will shatter her world. I don't know if I can deal with my brother's death and breaking up with her all at the same time. I would feel so horrible breaking up with her as we've talked about marriage and children, I tried doing it today and seeing her fall apart broke my heart, so I told her that I'll just try taking a break from her for a while to see if missing her will help my feelings return. She's staying at her parents house and I'm at home. I also know that a lot of my family will be upset because they love her, and I'm afraid her family will hate me for it.
Any advice would be direly appreciated.
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If you are absolutely sure that a break isn't going to change anything about the way you feel about her, then you need to end it now. It's never easy to end a relationship, especially after such a long time. But if the feelings are gone, it's neither fair on you nor on her to continue this. If you can't be in it with your whole heart, you shouldn't be in it at all.
I realise it's hard for you to deal with your brother's death as well as with a break-up, but if you are sure that you see no future with her, it's just cruel to postpone the inevitable.
If you feel like a break might help you to sort out your feelings and figure out what you really want, then by all means stick to the break. But judging by what you wrote, it seems like you are convinced that she isn't the one for you and that the feelings aren't going to return.1