hi - I am in a complicated situation. I've known my current ex for 6 years. he had dated my friend previously 4 years ago for a month. they are still great and close friends and she has a current bf. it was not weird at all; we asked permission from her and she was over the moon about it back last winter. it was great. Starting off from there, there was no official title. but we would visit (it was long distance by a few hours) every month, me there, he here with me. I met the family etc . Turns out around beginning of the summer he was sleeping with my friend's ( his ex's) little underage sister and they both were keeping it a secret from me. HeartBroken, I stopped communicating, but still can see updates via social media platforms. I lost a lot of weight, and was trying to move forward. I was mad that we had 40 something mutual friends, and previously had already planned to go visit during the summer. I ended up going but not telling him and spent time with our mutual friends, but he found out i was there and was upset/ we met and then we reconnected after he broke down and cried. WE started to officially date end of this summer. The pain, and trust issues, and betrayal stuck with me though, I couldn't shake it. The worst thing was that he expected me to be 100% ok. AND this WHOLE time, from even the first break, he was still communicating with the sister and other exs. But I had to be ok with that, since he always ends things on a good note and is always "friends" with his ex's. We dated for 4 months and then it came to an emotional and bad end 1 month ago, I was sick over the stress and anxiety from his lies and indifference towards me. When I tried everything in my power to make things right when he put in no effort ( and the long distance). Now he seems absolutely fine, still checks my social media platforms, I have deleted him off of everything after I saw he deleted two pics of me off of instagram, even though he has all his ex flings and gf's pics there.
Most Helpful Guy
Seriously? You need a guy's perspective? All of the information you need is right there in your post.
1. He cheated on you
2. He slept with an underage girl
3. He treated you like crap.
If you go back to him, you're an idiot. Move on and find someone who won't cheat and will treat you like a girl should be treated.3
Most Helpful Girl
See it for what it is. He's a collector who like to play with his collection. He's also a paedo, why hasn't he been arrested? That alone is a huge red flag & you shouldn't have reconciled after that. You have now learned the hard way that actions tell the full story & not words. Block him every way possible & remove any mutual contacts or friends from your life who have no issues in sharing your personal business with him! Do not be alone with him, do not speak to or allow him to contact you.0
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