How do you stop caring about someone?

So I dated and became best friends with this guy, it lasted for years. Put simply, he decided that I wasn't good enough and he became someone else, someone that most people don't like too much now a days.

I still care about him, a lot and I really shouldn't. He never explained anything to me, he never apologized to me, he just turned into a cocky ass hole and wrote everyone off, even his best friend.

But then I seen him again. Whenever I see him (and he's alone), he'll match me -- a wave if I wave, a smile if I smile. Every once and awhile he'll talk to my best friend. I know that he does still care a little bit because you can not erase 6 years together.

But then when I see him, with his immature group of "friends," I just remember what he's become. He walks around like he's the sh*t. I actually feel sorry for him!

I do not want to get back together with him -- EVER but yet I still care so much about him and to be honest, he doesn't deserve it. I should not be there for someone who would not be there for me.

And on top of it, every time I see his girlfriend or any of her friends, they either start whispering about me, laugh at me, or give me dirty looks. They are all dumb sluts and they can be immature if they want, but I don't like the idea that maybe he talks badly about me.

I've done just about everything. I've deleted his number from my phone and I haven't actually talked to him since May. I thought maybe we could be Facebook friends, but he denied. (SInce then I've deleted my Facebook). And I honestly feel like myself again, like I'm happy but he still has a piece of me and I want to get it back!


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What Guys Said 1

  • Look, you can not just erase someone from your life after 6 years of being together and neither can he. The fact that you both were together for six years means that you both liked and cared for each other, did a lot for each other and had fun. (If not, then you should ask why you put up with it for so long.)

    Now it is over. He is no longer the kind of person you liked. Something has gone wrong with him and probably he needs psychological help and counselling. He is an adult and he can choose the kind of friends he wants and behave anyway he wants. And, you are not his mother!

    It is a pity that a good friendship can not continue. But, it happens.

    If you care for him, pray for him to be happy. Get your life together and look out for your own happiness as well.


What Girls Said 1

  • Oh sweetie! I'm really sorry to hear about this! I've got a question though...You said that you havn't talked to him since May but in the ladder you mentioned how he smiles and waves at you. Are these recent occurences or did they happen in May?

    • No those are recent, since August, but neither of us have come up and talked to the other. One of the last things he told me (back in May -- even when he had a girlfriend) was: "You're crazy but I still love you!" Talk about confusing huh? But he must be happy, he's still with her.