I grew up with a widowed parent. But I'm expecting and we are not going to be together so I'm curious to know what my child might feel and go through so if you can share your thoughts feelings and suggestions on what you wish your parents would do differently
Most Helpful Guy
Congratulations to you! Children are amazing and give so much love and ask for so little. If possible do try to keep the father as involved as possible and never show tension when around him and your child. It changes their perspective on the opposite sex in a negative way. Be disciplines and strong with lots of play time and lots of structure. You should do fine. I wish my mother left with my siblings and I. My parents were drunks and my father was more physically abusive than my mother and often hurt her enough to put her in the hospital. To be honest I wish my mother's mother and father's father married (both were widowed when I was a baby) and adopted me. I would have not pissed away 10 years of my life with bad women and bad drugs. Like the Beatles say "All you need is love". Cheers and congrats again.0
Most Helpful Girl
Pink sang it best
'I didn't wanna have to split the holidays, I didn't want two addresses, I didn't eantba stepbrother anyway and I didn't want my mum to have too change her last name.'
It all depends on how the situation is, if both parents can at least be civil then to be honest it can be nice having two Christmases, two birthdays, and personally we left my dads side of the family in another city so I've been able to have somewhere to escape for a while when everything gets a bit much.
All in all I got out of it pretty unaffected, I just wish my parents would be civil about eachother.. I don't think either patent should ever talk down the other parent infront of their child.
I hope for my wedding day both parents will stay civil for me.
Don't feel guilty or anything though, their are positives too separated parents. :)0
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