Feel free to be as brutal as you like. So my girlfriend broke up with me 3... maybe 4 weeks ago, I've lost track of things like days and weeks. Our relationship (if you can even call it that) lasted less than 2 weeks. She had a lot of baggage but I wasn't aware that it was going to affect her feelings about our relationship so drastically. Thing is we weren't together long (I know for certain we've as of now been broken up for longer than we were together) but she wormed her way further into my heart than anyone ever has, faster than anyone else (kinda scares me). Now that she's gone life just seems gray. I don't enjoy anything anymore, and bad things just don't even faze me. I feel like my life went from full HD to grainy black and white in an instant. I have no motivation and barely get out of bed except to go to work. I honestly can't see me getting over her anytime soon. Frankly, she was the best girlfriend I've ever had. I spend nights listening to depressing break-up music (mostly Linkin Park) and even crying (I haven't cried over a woman since my first love back in high school). I miss her horribly and sometimes talk to myself like I'm talking to her, saying things I wish I'd said.
My depression is leaking over into every area of my life and people are taking notice, but I couldn't care less. Today one of my closest friends from work asked me why I was "having a bad day" and "why I had to make everything so hard". I didn't even bother replying because I'm sick of telling people I'm fine when I'm not, even though I can't exactly tell them what's going on. 80% of my brainpower is spent thinking about her, us, things I might have done wrong (She said when we broke up that I'd done nothing wrong but somehow I doubt it), ways to convince her to come back (all of which I end up discarding because I believe she just isn't interested in me on any level now), and even things I would say to her now if we got the chance to have a conversation. Am I pathetic?
- Utterly patheticVote A
- Pathetic, get over her alreadyVote B
- Sounds like you need a hug :(Vote C
- Completely normalVote D
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Something similar happened to me recently. I met a girl on a dating site, and we connected so well on so many levels, physical attraction, personalities matched etc, great chemistry. We talked on the phone for hours almost every day for almost 3 weeks, had phone sex and shared lots of personal things with each other, past experiences and interest and future goals etc, we talked about this potentially being the beginning of something serious, but while i was already certain i wanted something serious with her, she was very unsure and nervous about how it would go when we would have our date.
So we meet have a great date and have great sex. She tells me in the morning she isn't ready for a relationship.( i could tell by her body language after she orgasmed and during the night that she was in deep thought and concerned and backdrawn, she had tears in her yes etc)
She seemed sad and concerned about me since she knew what i wanted. I didn't realize this meant we couldnt see each other anymore, so i just told her i had no expectations but would like to see her again, she was hesitant but agreed. i also gave her a small gift before she left, a souvenir stone to remember me by. but slowly after our date she started to become distant. She avoided talking to me on the phone, and eventually i asked her what was wrong. she told me she became backdrawn because she felt i wanted more despite her telling me she wasn't ready. I told her i understood that but i wanted to keep in touch with her if possible. She avoided the question and told me i scared her away with the gift i gave her, and she told me she was unfortunately still scared away. i thought it was an excuse so i called her out on her hypocrisy and that i realized she was trying to get rid of me (i was sad since i though if she wanted to get away she could just have told me she couldnt see me anymore as i told her i had no expectations)0
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