I was dating my ex for 9 months. We both care for each other a lot but he decided that we wernt compatiable and called it off (we fought a lot, im overly insecure). He was my first boyfriend and first person i went all the way with (he took my virginity) we both are gonna try to be friends for the sake of each others health and the fact that we also work together. I feel like I've lost a part of me. He has been threw breakups before so he keeps reassuring me that ill be okay but i dont feel like i ever will be okay again ): what are some good ways to relax your mind over a first breakup?
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It's hard to be friends straight away after a break-up because you're still communicating, involved in one anothers business, still reminding eachother that you've broken up. My best advice is to take some breathing space and avoid contact, at least for a few weeks so you can both heal. You honestly will be fine in a few weeks, that sinking feeling will begin to fade and you'll start wondering why you were so down. In the meantime, remove anything and everything that reminds you of him in your room or wherever out of sight for now, constant reminders only make things worse. Store pictures of anything ex related on your phone to a computer and delete from your phone. Spend time with your friends and family, focus on your studies/work, treat yourself to some new clothes - be distracted. Wallow in it sometimes, cry when it feels right but when you're done don't stay in that state of mind, go okay so that happened but i'm gonna move on from it now and do something else. You honestly will be fine, it's the first but probably not the last, you get used to these situations the more experience you have so treat it as just that, a minor bump in the road to overcome and drive on from. Good luck!0