So I sent my ex a note yesterday basically initiating the no contact method. She said she thought it was fair. I told her I will disappear from her life from January 21st to February 27th and on the 28th she had to have come up with something far as if she wants to move forward to starting over or she just wants to be friends. I love her enough to let her go and figure this out. Do you think she seen this as a sign of strength? Or will this push her away. I Did this because she's confused. She needs to heal and forgive me. And we have talked every day since the break up. So like the anger she has towards me can't be properly healed or handled if she gets reminded of all the bad once stuff has been going good. I figured this is happening because she hasn't really had that space FROM me. She obviously feels something because she hasn't completely broke it off. We hang. We see movies with just me her, and some with her daughter as well. She hasn't taken my ring off and she says she never will. I just don't know. She tells other guy's she's working on this relationship with me. And then tell me something completely different. Like she confused and doesn't know. So I did the no contact Starting today. Should I get her and her daughter something for Valentine's day? I want to! but I will do it discretely. Or will it go against the no contact? Help please. I just hope this doesn't mess up things. Far as the no contact.
Most Helpful Girl
Its not your place to initiate a no contact rule since you're the one who cheated in the first place. But if she requests that you give her space, then do it. if she's seeing someone else, (even if its just a date or a friend) your relationship might be over soon coz by seeing someone else besides you means she realized she needs to have you replaced one way or another. Or at least moved on. can't you just act normal again and give your everything into winning her trust back?0
Most Helpful Guy
Separating yourself from her is the worst way possible to fix a problem in my opinion. I've tried that and it's stupid as hell and results in you losing the relationship. Sometimes we need to push down our pride if and admit we have feelings for that person and whatever the argument was stupid.3