Recently broke up with my ex girlfirend whom I still love. But can't stop think about what she's doing and who's she hanging out with. Think this is to do with my own insecurities. I want to develop a love for my self so I can feel confident about being single so I can attract more people around me and improve future relationships and friendships. Any advice much appreciated
Most Helpful Guy
Hey I'm right there with you, bro. I just broke up with the 2nd girl I ever really loved and I have a 3 year old kid with her. I didn't really want to do it and I still love her very much but I had to do what I had to do. The problem it sounds like is you are codependent on her, like I am with my ex. Too much of your life was revolved around her and you forgot who you were. At least that's how I feel.
What am I gonna do? The same thing I did when I broke up with the last one. I'm gonna surround myself with support. Renew old, lost friendships, go to concerts, spend time with family, whatever. I'm gonna stay the hell off her Facebook and other forms of social media. I'm gonna work hard and get a membership to the gym with an eye on seeing major results in a month or so.
Then I'm gonna talk to as many girls as I can. Doesn't matter if I find them attractive or whatever. Could be the cashier at Publix, a 50 year old lady walking past me in the neighborhood or some chick at the strip club. Why? Because we gotta get back to learning how to talk to women again. We haven't practiced in a long time. That way when one you're really interested in comes along you won't trip all over your words and maybe even be able to ask them out. Just getting smiles back will do a lot for your self esteem. By the time you finally snagged one if you've built up your social circle, worked hard and worked out you should have enough confidence to go out with them and show them a good time without wondering what your old home girl was doing.
Then once you've got them don't make the same mistakes or allow yourself to be treated the same way the last one did ya and maybe you'll have something even better. I know this, I plan to look back at where I'm at today a year from now and laugh at myself for being so soft. I hope you can do the same.0