We have been together since 12th grade. We are each others first everything. I feel he gets mad when he wants to hang out with his friends and I complain about it, because he has left me home "stuck" with the kids. I am very accommodating and feel if he would have expressed his feelings before they got to this point I could have done something to change. I'm worried it might be too late. HELP!!
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You and your soul mate have been together 'Forever' it seems, poketfuloposey, and it has gotten to the point in this relationship, baggage to boot, that he is Feeling like he is in this Relationship Rut with you, feels suffocated and needs his space perhaps just a bit too much, which is Why-----I complain about it. You have every right to be upset when he is always going to 'Hang out with his friends' and leaves you home alone with the His kids as well and for him to just go out the door, be gone for hours on end, in my Book of Etiquette it's inexcusable. I feel he is not there to lend a helping hand and with one car to share, he is Not 'Sharing' but burdening you with these house 'hobbies' that he expects you to stay at home with and that is Be chief cook and bottle washer while he is allowed to go out and paint the town red with all his Tom, Dick and Harry buds.
I don't see where anything is ever going to change. He has heard you out, you have tried to have an honest open convo with him to work it out but he refuses to listen. He wants to make it look like that all your Piping up is his reason of the season for going out and leaving you alone with the kids. It's unfair and he is being bullheaded and with someone like this, I will bet my bottom buck before he is 30, he will end up cheating on you next.
Something has to be done. It's not healthy for you, your relationship, nor is it a healthy environment for the kids neither. He either needs to work something out with you to be a father, be more of a partner or you need to take the kids and go stay with someone and let him be alone with what he may have in mind with his actions that are speaking louder than his words.
Good luck, blessings for 2015. xx0