So he's my first boyfriend and we only dated for 6 months and I broke up with him because even though he was a nice guy he wasn't right for me and my family didn't like him. But we were still really close friends and talked and hung out like before for another 6 months. But to make it short, over a month ago he lied to me about him being online dating and he said he didn't talk to any girls but I found a picture of slutty version of Kim Kardashian... he was keep lying to me about it and later he finally told me the truth because I kept asking him about it. I know he's allowed to do date other girls because we are not official anymore but what makes me mad and hurt was he lied to me multiple times to my face and that I foolishly believed him even though I had doubts. Also, we still had some feelings left for each other (because he was my first boyfriend and he really liked me and wanted to marry me). And I could feel he wants to date me again if my mom is ok with it so he was buying her flowers and chocolates to be on her good side. So when I found out he was lying to me the whole time I stopped talking to him. He sent me the a long apologetic text messages but I didn't respond. And he called me a few times a week after but I didn't pick up. Now weeks after that, he called me about 40 TIMES and texted me over 10 times yesterday that his mom died and he's lonely and he really needs me. All of his family lives far away and I am the only one who knows about his personal life and his mom's health situation. I do care about him but I think it's not going to be healthy for both of us to move on and start fresh. I texted him I will call him today but I don't know if I am doing the right thing? What should I do?
My EX-BOYFRIEND's mom DIED and he wants to talk and meet with me?
What Guys Said 2
he was dating kim? LOl seriously who is the guy and damn he's lucky
now on what should u do, i would be there for my worst enemy if thr mum died because hey its one of the hardest thing in life to loose the one who brought u in this world1
He's looking to be consoled and if that means physically then I think he'd be very happy0
What Girls Said 2
Okay, so... In this case i think you should show your very best side! :)
Be there for him, losing your mother is a VERY big thing and no matter what his reasons are to reach out to you.. Show him that you care, since you posted this on here i believe you do. (And that's a good thing)
I don't think anyone on here can really tell what other stuff may come up between the two of you.
But my advise would be to support him through his loss.
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Good luck with this girl, must be hard for you too!
One thing that puzzles me is that you are 23 and seem to care so much what your mother thinks who you are in touch with and who you are dating. It really is none of her business. She can say that she doesn't like someone, but that's the most she is entitled to do.
Now to your ex. As you say, he did nothing wrong with being on a dating site and I am not defending him, but I can see why he lied about it. Had he said the truth, he would have most likely lost you. Of course, his lies achieved the same outcome but I can see why he wanted to avoid drama by admitting that he's online dating.
I honestly think you should talk to him. His mother just died. I'd pretty much be there for anybody whose mother just died. And quite honestly, I don't think the lie about the dating site was THAT bad. I mean that guy went out of his way to please you (and your mother) and obviously he didn't want to admit that he is online dating but at the same time, you can't expect him to wait around for you and your mother to finally accept him.0
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