I'm still in quite a state of shock and I'm very hurt. My recent ex who just left me a few days ago went back to his ex. The one he left for me. I didn't find out the reason until I decided to visit him. They went out from when they were 18-23 then they broke up because he met me. We have only been together for five months before he left me. I thought it was because his friends and family never liked me but he told me it didn't matter. He always complained to me on how she is so high maintenance, how she's constantly at the gym so he doesn't get to see her in the mornings before she goes to her classes, how she always nags at him and etc. I mean he talked about her during the first month frequently but he stopped. He was always affectionate and we barely fought. The break up was a surprise because he just bought me a stuffed animal and cooked me breakfast. When I came home that afternoon I found the box of things I left at his place on my door step. He wasn't answering my calls so I decided to go to his house thinking it was a joke. He didn't answer the door but his ex did. She was just in his shirt and I heard him call out "who is it babe". I just bolted inside and demanded to know what was going on. He just said I'm sorry I'm done. We need to separate and I started breaking down. He called my friend to pick me up and just told me sorry. I dont understand what just happened...
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I'm sorry that this happened. He was probably going through a low in his old relationship and wanted to escape and then there was you and it seemed like a good idea. Then he realised that he was quite happy with his ex and decided to go back. I wouldn't say that you were a rebound, since he left her for you, but I don't think we need to name it anyway.
The way he handled breaking up with you is very poor and disrespectful. It must be very painful and confusing for you, I am not surprised. Ideally, he should have had conversations about you wherein he should have told you that him and his ex are in touch and that he has doubts about you and him. Just leaving a box with your belongings on the doorsteps is what an utter coward would do.
Objectively, you should be glad that you got rid of someone like that, but I know that right now it's just hurtful. In a while, you will see that he isn't/wasn't worth any of the pain because the way he treated you is extremely low. As an aside, I think that leaving his ex for you five months ago was already pretty low. It seems like he seems to think he can just go and be with whoever he fancies to be with without taking into consideration that other people have feelings as well and deserve some respect.0