It sucks she strung me along. I was in no contact for 2 weeks until she contacted me saying she missed me and couldn't stop thinking about me. IF she was really doing this then why is she dating someone else?
She wanted to talk about us and suggested us to get drinks somewhere so I made reservations. We got into an argument that night cause she was texting the guy she's dating.
I know I should've played it cool. Next morning she says she's sorry, she will always love me as I was her first love, it's going to be hard on us. She also said she wants me to date around so we can see what we really want and maybe later we will get back together.
She gave me a kiss at the end and said to be good & she's gonna miss me. Why won't she just say she doesn't love me anymore?
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She has officially made you her backup plan. That is, unless you get over her and forget about her.
Most of the time, there's no such thing as the "perfect closure". That stuff only exists in movies. In reality, people drift apart without saying anything, back stab each other, ignore each other, lie, cheat and disappear into thin air. And there's really not much you can do about any of that. Real closure is about accepting that it's over, even though it wasn't verbally communicated and even though there was no serious discussion about it. It's about knowing yourself so well, that you can recognize the feeling of being done. It's about knowing when to move on, and when to give up.
Really, most people don't even understand closure. They think that closure is some long and heartfelt discussion with your partner when you decide to part ways and never talk to each other again. That's not closure. I'm pretty sure most people, in the end, would feel like that wasn't good enough. Why? Because, people who go on and on about wanting closure, are afraid to move on. They're afraid of ending the chapter themselves. They're afraid of closing the book and calling it a day. They call it "closure" but really, they should replace "closure" with "move on". I want closure = I want to move on. And how do they get closure, how do they move on? By accepting the situation and letting go. That's the ONLY way you'll get your closure.1