I've posted something similar in the past. Been together for close to 11 years and after YEARS of trying to be cool and get her to be more sexually adventurous (she doesn't even like a simple bj) I'm done. She does everything else that a good partner does. Takes care of me, helps me when I don't have time and all the rest but I WiLL cheat on her because there is so much more to explore. I don't want to cheat on her, I just want to break up and find a girl better suited for me. My only mistake was thinking she would change and I stayed with her so long... should have dumped her long ago. I feel shit but does it make me a bad guy?
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Does she know that you're dumping her for that reason? It would be pretty unfair if you just dumb her and don't give her a reason or she is unaware of how bad she is and given no time to try to improve. Look, I'm gonna just share a quick story with you from my experience. I've dated my guy since I was 19, I'm now 23 and even though 4 years isn't a long time, he was pretty bad in bed and for sometime within the past year and a half, I considered leaving him for it, he didn't wanna do anything except for the same woman-on-top, showed no affection (no kissing or foreplay) and never went down on me. I gave him BJs, sensual massages, you name it. I told him about it numerous times but it went in one ear and came out of the other. Until one day, I got fed up and told him that we're done, because he sucks in bed and doesn't try. I straight up told him that there are guys out there who are willing to give me some of the best sex ever. I guess he took it to heart and came to the realization and got his act together. He started going to the gym, trying to be more healthy so that he'll have the stamina and endurance to try to be better in bed. As of today, I realized that our biggest issue when it came to sex was communication. We communicated as friends, but were terrible lovers. I started to be more verbal and aggressive about what I wanted and with every command he tried to be a better lover, bringing more things to spice up our sex life. We started going to sex shops, doing research and believe it or not, started watching p*rn together to get in the mood. It worked for us. Our sex life has significantly improved and I'm happy that I didn't run off with some guy who'll give me better sex, yes, but someone who I didn't love and cherish like my SO. So, I'm not saying that this will work for you per say, but have you tried everything to just want out? Were you brutally honest? Straight up tell her the truth. Good luck.1