I've been trying to get my friend of 6 years to date me, things were going well until she started talking to her Ex. he's going to visit town and she wants to see how much he's changed. Naturally I'm not happy with that being push aside because there's still a chance with her Ex.
So I told her that I'm not happy with that and I wouldn't be around for her to see if things could be fixed between them or not. She starts telling me that he wasn't himself when he hurt her, yelling at her and abandoning her, that it was because he was on drugs and trying to kill himself. That just made me even more worried, when I worry about someone I mostly just bottle it up until I'm a shitty and mean friend.
The last thing I told her was that we can't talk anymore if he's going to be in your life. I feel like I kicked a puppy and that I'll never see or talk to her again. I told her that I would give her time to think. I just don't know if this was the right thing to do. On one hand I know my limits, that I can't handle worrying about her with a guy like him. On the other hand I just want to see her happy.
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Friendships are a two way street, especially if you want to date her. You're doing damage control, and you're saving you. This is rough, and it's not going to be easy. Sometimes, doing the right thing is the harder path. You're choosing the right path; stay strong.0