When imeet my now wife, we were in love hard core, happy all the time, I've always treated her with respect and she was the only woman in the world i could see. Then she got pregnant, and shut changed, iwas happy about being a dad, and she acted like she was too. But out of no where she became a child bitch, talking about needing space and Shit. Then around our baby shower she started acting normal again so proposed to her, she accepts. Well, turns out she was cheating on me foramonth while6months pregnant. Ididn't find out till 4years later and on kid number2. Iuse to look at her with the love of the world in my eye. I seriously had a sparkle in my eye every time she walked into the room. And now, a full year afterD-day, ican't look at her with the same wonder, sometimes i can't even look at her in the eye. I love her so much, if she had told me when it happened i would have surely kicked her out. Causeb4 we made the commitment to each otherilayered it all out in the table, iwould never make her do anything, I'll always support act protect her, I'll deal with your crazy days and i can can handle anything you will go threw. Butican't handle being cheated on. That's it, I'll be there for you for the rest of your life if you want, just be faithful. and she agrees. So, she kept it a secret from Me for4 years, by this timei have started my life and family with her. It hurts knowing that I'm not important enough to fallow the1 thing i needed to be happy. We've been in Councling and she quit her job to stay home with thekids. But can't enjoy any of the pricless moments a man should with his family cause when they happen i kinda realise it, you know, those times you make a mental movie cause you know it's a milestone, and always get taken over by her fucking someone else and tearing apart our family. She has ruined my dad moments it seems. Is there any hope for us?
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Most Helpful Girl
I'm so sorry to hear this... It really sucks when you put stuff on the line to love someone and they just decide to mess it up like it means nothing. It just goes to show that we can't have everything and we can't really base our happiness on another person cause they might just throw it away the first chance they get and in the worst way on top of that.
think of it this way... The cheating was her decision along her journey... I can't tell you how to feel bout that but yes I guess its bound to change how you feel about her. But what I can tell you is dont let her decisions and actions disrupt your journey and your joy in your kids and in your overall life. Choose joy and forgiveness for your own health.
and on leaving her... How will you be going foward? Will you trust again? Will you enter the next marriage and relationship expecting the person to consider you first in their decisions? Will you take the bitterness out on them? What will life look like after you've left her? And what will life look like if you stayed with her?
either way, make sure that you are happy and the outlook is positive. Dont dwell on that decision she made cause anyone can make it... Anyone can drop your happiness... And they can do it everytime0
Most Helpful Guy
Look man I feel Ya bro. No it's over. She hurt you too bad. You sound like me as far as seriousness in the commitment of one other and bro if she did it once and it took 4 years to say something then she'd do it again and not say nothing. And how did you find out about her cheating? Did she tell you?0