What are ways to get over post breakup depression and move on?

Question pretty self explanatory. Help? :/

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  • Go on tinder, match, etc and just chat with people. It provides a nice confidence boost knowing that people out there like you besides your ex. Just make sure to do so with out any intention to meet until after you've worked past the break up.

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    • This is actually really helpful to get you back to realizing there's so much more out there and it's not a hopeless lonely future :) you'll also get through it with some good songs on a break up Playlist to let it all out i. e. crying works to some extent. Make plans with your friends to stay busy too

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  • 5 years have passed and I still remember my first breakup, I was in a hell for 6 months, by the time i recovered must say first it seems impossible to get over but time is a great healer, i do remember it all but now it doesn't hurt me anymore infact i laugh on it when i think about it, that incident almost made me hate all the girls in earth, i am really a serious type guy and very honest, i hate cheaters and liars, i put my everything into to that relationship, i accepted mistakes what i never committed, i have compromised many things, cried in a corner, i did all to keep it fix, i hated what all she has done but i tried all for the sake of relation cuz i never wanted a broken heart in the end cuz that wasn't my choice, all the time i was thinking of it, what was my fault? Where i have gone wrong? Then i realized that she did all the drama just because she needed some reason to escape, so it was all over cuz once it's decided nothing can turn them back again, your every efforts will be of no use, and by the time i have found that forced relation never works so don't waste your mind and heart trying on it, just think that it was meant to let it go, cuz better things ahead are waiting, all those 5 years i wasn't in any relationship though i am not really afraid anymore, but yeah i wanna give you a little trick that worked for me, don't try to think over it again and again, guilt factor dig it deep inside, don't give yourself false hopes instead of thinking to get it back think about new opportunities and better beginning, get busy with work, don't leave your mind empty, the best way to forget about something is to do something that you are in completely, try exploring your hobbies and fun part, meet friends and people try to socialise more, learn new things, write some creative stuff, don't listen emotional music it will make your wound fresh. All those stuff helped me a lot to get over from almost an impossible and hopeless situation, i hope this help you too. :)

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  • Acceptance and self compassion. Accept that its over. Reflect on the good and bad. Appreciate the relationship for what it had to offer. Understand that its better this way and focus on yourself. Learn things, take up a new hobby, exercise, travel, and when you're ready date. Lots of great books out there and you can always seek help from a therapist if its affecting you negatively.

    Good luck and smile your face!

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  • It just takes a lot of time. In my experience, from someone I really loved and was intimate with, several years is not uncommon. And even after many years, you will still miss and love that person with all your heart. If you were really in love, that never changes throughout life. Don't run after the first guy that meets your fancy. Be very very patient!!

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  • Write down everything that you liked about him. His physical appearance and his qualities. Now I'm gonna tell you something. Out of the entire male population in the country you live in, anout 1/8 of all of the people in your country match most or all of his qualities. That's a lot! And you think to yourself, one of those guys is out there waiting for me. The more ground you cover, the more likely you are to meet one of them. Good luck

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  • Hang out with your friends? Talk about it with someone you trust. Listen to music. List go on. Google it and there literally thousand of articles on how to get over him/her/it.

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  • Do something for yourself.

    I went on a trip by myself... took the week off and travelled a little. I saw some beautiful countryside in Maine and it gave me time to think and refocus on who I am without that other person.

    The change of scenery was awesome and it was entirely about me. Something that I had not done in along time. I got back to the basics and my roots and this provided clarity!

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  • Do the things you love, go out with friends, have fun, meet new people, there's a lot of things you can do

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  • Think of it as a new beginning rather than the end of your relationship.

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  • REMOVE ALL ITEMS OR THINGS THAT REMIND YOU OF HIM

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  • hiking, sex...

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  • The best thing to do is avoid contacting the guy (which I'm sure you are already doing) and then figuring out ways that you can contribute to your self growth. Think about the things that you had wanted to do before you were single. If you don't already, create a bucket list and start doing all of the things on that list. The more active you are at improving your life and hanging out with people that make you happy, the faster you will get over it. Don't jump into another relationship immediately because that is just avoiding the pain. Allow yourself to see the positives in your life and regain that love for yourself :)

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  • I am 31 and 3 years ago I separated from my husband and it was tough... I went out on a rampage of dating and I regretted it massively. Concentrate on the friends you have potentially neglected, get some new hobbies (exercise is best and then you feel better about yourself too!) and wait until it passes. It is like a person dying, you eventually get to a point where the pain is not as raw as it was at first!

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  • First few weeks for me usually staying busy by throwing myself into a new project at work, gym and reinvesting in myself. Then after you've kind of boosted your hot factor and confidence back up dating online or speed dating but try to have at least a few first dates lined up instead of clinging to the first guy who seems datable.

    Downtime at home is your worst enemy so when you do have some time to spare at home clean, cook, have a purpose. No couch surfing.

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  • Dont try to force to move on too quickly. I find when you do that , it takes longer. Just go about focusing on your life and what will make you happy. Choose something u like to do. And let yourself heal.

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  • Cutting comunication is the worse and its hard. But you need to keep yourself laughing and busy ,... its not wrong to drink and go out. Be social...

    Also give yourself some (space) to yourself...
    limit yourself from seeing him..

    make up an excuse like... Im just focused on my priorities I haven't had time to talk...

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  • Find alternative sources of pleasure. When I had boredom from school at the beginning of the semester I trained myself to listen to Classical music to motivate me to concentrate better.

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  • Try to think of all the things that turned you off about him. Then, try to focus your energy on someone who makes you feel special, get out, and do things with that person. Keep reminding yourself of all the bad things your ex did, and that's why you shouldn't be with them. Everything happens for a reason, and hopefully the reason is because someone better is around the corner.

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  • Honestly it can depend on the length of your relationship and the seriousness of it. But I have to agree with the other comment. Don't go looking for another relationship right away (you don't want to end up hurting somebody by using them as a rebound) but just chat it up with a few guys maybe hang out or go on 1 date. It not only gives you something to do so your not constantly thinking about him but being surrounded by new guys can be flattering and a good ego boost and does indeed help you realize that if you aren't going to be with him that's ok because their are plenty of fish in the sea (probably even sexier and sweeter)

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  • go out enjoy yourself spend time with loved ones... treat yourself

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  • Get yourself out there. Whether that means going out with friends or even family helps. If you're looking for a relationship then get online like Facebook. I have been in the same position. My boyfriend (of two years) and I broke up a couple months ago and it's been really hard. Have confidence in yourself and don't be afraid to reach out to people. If you're ready for that step, just keep in mind that some people may not be interested. But no matter what don't give up on finding what you need and deserve!

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  • ice cream?

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  • The way people use the word depression so easily for every fucking situation. ...

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