I'm trying to decide how to approach this. It's happened before, where we'll go a while without contact and my (private) doubts start creeping up, then we'll get to talk for an afternoon and I'll feel like a heel for questioning anything in the first place. Nothing quite like this, though, where my messages aren't even read.
I figure I'll back off, wait a few more days and see if I hear anything from her, but if by next weekend I haven't heard anything... God. Would anyone have any advice on this? We made it work for six months, now I don't know what to think.
To be clear, I want her to be happy, whether I'm part of her future or not. Always have. I've been trying to find ways to be supportive - she's under a lot of pressure - but as much as I want to, I can't take her out for a relaxing evening on the town. If she wants to end things... if she needs someone who can do those things for her, it'd be better than not knowing. I'm just not a fan of this suspense.
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You know I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years, and 3 of those years were long distance, 3 hours away.
Visiting is really important when you can. When I had gotten a car, during the summer I'd visit him all week and go home to work on weekends, since he didn't have transportation at the time. Once he got a truck we both visited back and forth. I don't know how far away you are but you guys should find a way to do that.
Also if you have no goals of someone moving closer, then its going to go downhill. I think that's the only reason why ours lasted so long, is because we were working towards living someday in the same town, and actually doing something about it. I first tried to go to school where he lived but it didn't work out due to out of state admission problems. So he started working towards moving here. Once he got his truck he looked around for jobs til he found one.
Having a goal to end the long distance I think is equally important as visitation.
You guys need to talk about your relationship and figure out is this what you both want, and if it is, start planning on making it serious. It is a lot of hard work, you definitely have to work for it.1