I split up with my ex a year ago as I didn't feel like it was working out. He's not ready to be in a relationship with me because of our history etc (but I would have considered trying again if he'd wanted it). We still have feelings for each other and met for the first time in months recently. But I emailed him last week to say it's too hard to meet up if he's sure he doesn't want more than friends. He replied saying it's difficult for him too and he asked if he can think about what I said then get back to me? I said that was ok. I called him today just to chat, he asked me if I wanted to go for lunch next week. I asked him if it will be a date to see his reaction, and he asked me what I thought about that (as though it's up to me!). I changed the subject and he said again to let him know when we can go for lunch. But I shouldn't assume he wants anything from that, right?