I was seeing a guy for six mints, seven months ago. We had known one another for 17 years... although not particularly been in one another's lives. The relationship was up and down... great at first bit then mared with long discussions, mainly due to us getting together soon after an awful relationship of mine and his job taking me away for long periods. We decided to break up... because I wanted more And because he was confused by what he wanted.
He worked away for three months and I suggested no contact. .. to allow space for friendship on his return. He messaged. .. liked things on Facebook and generally still seemed to be there. I did replied politely to two messages.
He returned and did the same... but it was sporadic and while I was replying normally it was breaking me. I felt some of his messages were flirty... calling me by my nickname. .. putting two kisses. So I stopped replying.. I hoped that by doing so he would miss me and step up.
A month went by and I wasn't over him... I seemed to be hurting more... so I messaged him casually.. We messaged for a bit and he started to 'flirt' again. I asked him if that was what he was doing and he said he missed us and felt excited hearing from me but if he was flirting he would be texting more and asking me out. I declined his offer of friendship and we exchanged possessions via post. There were a few messages in and amongst but nothing major... strangely he sent the parcel with my nickname on... Instead of my real one... and asked if I'd noticed. (?)
Over the days that followed I deleted Facebook and instragram and removed him from my phone. .. I'm trying to move on... joined a gym, planning a house move, but emotionally I am really struggling... I don't feel like it's over and am really hurting... I feel a bit obsessed with it all.
Can I ask... what on earth... is this as confusing as it seems... any tips? And do I sound to have dealt with it ok? 😊
I just wanted time for me... I thought it might help me heal.
I do actually feel better without it... I was never a lover.