I recently met up with a mutual friend of ours who told me that my ex still asks how I am doing. On the face of it, my life has improved dramatically, I have a new and much better job, I have better friends etc even my appearance has changed haha. I've just moulded into a different woman. But sometimes, I think about my ex and what he said to me. Now this dude is a bum, he still works the same job in a supermarket, doesn't want to improve himself and he is much older than me. I just get un confident sometimes.
I know I shouldn't feel this way, because if anything he isn't good enough for me.
But I just have questions,
why would he ask about me after all this time?
How can I build up myself again? I really did love him at one point, I would never take him back but I just wondered if he will apologise or something. I dont miss him. I just wonder..
Most Helpful Guy
Is it rude or is he just making you aware of what he's looking for? Not sure why you would take this offensive.
you're not appealed to every guy out there so why is it shocking that he isn't appealed to you?
Time to move on
Most Helpful Girl
You are 110% right to say he's a jerk and to stay away from him. Maybe he's asking so he can know if you've moved on or just as a general point of interest between him and the mutual friend.
Honestly he doesn't sound like a guy who would apologize or if he did he's just using it as a way to manipulate you into taking him back.
It sucks how some things stick with us even though we know that there's no way they're true. I think you sound like a very awesome lady regardless of what jerky mcjerkface has to say about it. Maybe any time you feel negative about yourself you can remind yourself of a positive trait. Like "look how cute my nails are!" "Wow I was so smart to put this on my shopping list!" "I did a fantastic job cleaning the kitchen. Look at the shine!"
Hopefully reminding yourself of so many good things will help you remember how awesome you are instead of how scummy your ex is. Yay positivity!
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