So my guy and I were together for about 7 months. Still in the honeymoon phase, enjoying pretty much every day together for most of that time. He's 26, I'm 23.
He is moving to Florida from Mississippi. He is planning on going to school to finish his BA, then move onto his masters then PhD. He also will begin to invest in rental properties. He has some major aspirations for the next few years.
I told him on the phone recently that I was willing to move to Florida as well, so that we can continue our relationship. This is big for me since I'm not a person to go outside of my comfort zone--he changed that in me. It wasn't necessarily a hard decision or one that will impact me financially. My intentions were to find my own apartment since he had mentioned possibly moving in with his brothers who are also going to school. I would find a job at either another ambulance service or hospital. I also wanted to go back to school. Something I never thought I would do.
We never really discussed it. A few weeks later he told me no, he doesn't think it's a good idea. He doesn't want me to resent him if something happens between us. So I figured that we'd make the best of it and enjoy the few months we have left together.
He had a trip to see his brothers very shortly after that. Everything was fine between us while he was there, and on his way back. He broke his phone, so we had no form of communication. Next day we worked, there was some distance between us, that only grew as the work week went on, but we still talked when we saw each other. Next time we had a chance to see each other outside of work, he broke it off completely.
It's obvious he is hurting. So why make a decision like this? He's said he still wants to be friends and thoroughly enjoys being around me, but I just can't when we were more than that. He can't look at me much, yet he stays in the same room as me for as long as he can. What gives??
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Well you've only been together for 7 months, i'm feeling that if he just wants to so abruptly end the relationship and refuses to even let you move to Florida to continue the relationship suggests he doesn't want to continue it and wants you to let him go, he knows it would never work long distance (thus the sudden distance), so i think he knows too he's not being very nice just ending it just like that.
I don't think he really cared for you as much as you thought but 7 months isn't such a great lengh of time to be sure of how you both truly feel, i feel like he just didn't feel for you as much as he thought and he can't look at you because he didn't tell you sooner, i think you need to ask him if he's been having doubts for a while now, how long has he actually been planning to move to Florida? because something like this takes a while to think about doing... so if he's been thinking about it for a while then he's been unsure of your relationship for a good while now... which isn't great because he can't just start dating someone then decide to make other plans else where.0
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